Little Lesson: Your Softness Is Goodness

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that softness should be tucked away. That to survive, to succeed, we had to be sharper, tougher and louder. Maybe it was family telling you to “grow thick skin,” or managers mistaking your calmness for weakness. Maybe life handed you some hard lessons too early and you built your armour before you even knew what you were protecting.

The world often celebrates the hustle, the grind, the push. And while there's value in drive, there’s a quiet strength in softness that isn’t talked about enough.

Your softness: your empathy, your emotion, your gentleness… it is not a liability. In fact, it’s the only thing that can’t be twisted. It’s pure goodness.

It means you feel things deeply. That you listen with your heart. That you move through the world with intention and care. In a culture that can be quick, disconnected, and performative, it is power.

Softness doesn’t mean being passive or fragile. True softness is strength with grace. It’s the woman who knows her boundaries but speaks them kindly. It’s the friend who holds space for others without losing herself. It’s the soul who chooses peace over performance.

We… you need more spaces; where softness is not only allowed and understood.

Create them. Protect them. Be the gentle breath in a room that’s forgotten how to exhale.

When you stop apologising for your softness, you begin to move in harmony with your truest self. You attract from wholeness, not from chasing. You connect from heart, not ego. You live from soul, not survival.

And (without putting the pressure on you…) in doing so, you give others permission to soften too.

With love,
Your Big Sister